A 30-day parent + kid challenge

The Konfidence Challenge

Yo! You can’t give your kid confidence. But you sure as hell can show them what it looks like.

I say we do it together.

Stop second-guessing yourself, and raise a kid who goes for it anyway. Five to ten minutes a day: an exercise for you, plus a kid-friendly way to bring it home if you want to. By day 30 you’ll have your own Konfidence Kode, and a scary goal you’ve already gone after.

I was a painfully shy kid who couldn’t say my R’s until sixth grade. If anyone talked to me, I blushed. Now I’ve built a community of over 300,000 and I speak on stages. I’ll show you exactly how, and dare you to do it with your kid.

Doors open Nov 2 · We start Nov 9

Days · parent + kid

What have you been saving for “someday”?

“The heaviest burden a parent can give a child is the unlived life of the parent.”

Carl Jung

In my work with families, I’ve found that when I build up the parent’s confidence first, the kid’s follows.

Stop the voice that talks you out of things.

Stop handing your fears to your kid.

Start stacking proof you can trust yourself again.

Get on the list

Sound familiar?

It shows up in you first.

When researchers study anxious kids, the same three things keep showing up. They overestimate danger, underestimate themselves, and talk down to themselves. I saw all three in my kids. Then I saw them in me.

01 · Overestimating danger

The world feels bigger than it is.

You: don’t go for the things you know you should.

Your kid: holds back because they’re scared, not because they can’t.

02 · Underestimating yourself

You sell yourself short.

You: play smaller than you could.

Your kid: shrinks in groups when you know they can shine.

03 · Negative self-talk

The critic talks loudest.

You: second-guess what you said after you said it.

Your kid: talks down to themselves out loud.

Kids of anxious parents are up to seven times more likely to develop anxiety themselves.

The same research found that when parents change what they model, kids change with them. That’s why you go first.

Golda Ginsburg, PhD · Johns Hopkins

Why this exists

I came to help the kid. I kept finding the parent.

I started doing one-on-one clarity calls with parents who were worried about their kids. The same pattern kept showing up: a kid who talks down to themselves, stops going for the things they want, and treats every failure like a verdict.

The longer I talked with the parents, the more I heard the same things in them. They’d stopped going after their own goals. Their whole life had shrunk down to managing their kids. And failure scared them as much as it scared their kids.

So we worked on the parent first. They started having different conversations with their kids, and things at home started to change.

But not every parent can spend a few thousand dollars on one-on-one coaching. So I built the Konfidence Challenge: the same principles I use with parents, plus a distilled version of every exercise for your kid.

The goal: by the time your kid leaves your house, they trust themselves. They don’t fold under peer pressure, they don’t let a bully decide who they are, and the voice in their head is on their side.

From parents like you

We asked one question: what would the biggest win be?

Before our last challenge, we asked the parents on the waitlist what they wanted most. These are their replies, exactly as they came in.

Replies from parents on the waitlist describing the biggest win they hoped for

If one of these sounds like you, this was built for you.

What changes in 30 days

What you walk away with.

By day 30, you’ll have:

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30 days of BETs: bold, enthusiastic tests where you place a bet on yourself and collect the proof

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A real understanding of what confidence is, and the research on self-trust and what to do when you get stuck

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The awareness to stop putting a negative voice in your kid’s head

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A family culture of high standards and high support, and what that looks like on a Tuesday night

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A growth mindset your kid can lean on when things get hard, long after the 30 days

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Scripts for talking with your kid about what your family believes, so you’re the first one they come to when something’s hard

The five shifts that get you there

Shut up the voice that talks you out of things.

You can’t be confident while a voice in your head calls you stupid all day. You’ll learn who your critic is, where it came from, and how to stop handing it to your kid.

Compassion

Stop draining your confidence without noticing.

Every time you choose comfort or compare yourself to someone else, you make a withdrawal. Every brave rep is a deposit. You’ll learn to keep the account growing, for you and your kid.

Courage

Get better at hard things, and actually enjoy it.

Using the science of flow, you’ll find the zone where practice feels good enough that you don’t want to stop. That’s where self-trust compounds.

Competence

Feel more like yourself, not less.

Confidence built on someone else’s goals doesn’t last. You’ll set one scary goal rooted in what you actually value, so you stick with it when it gets hard.

Core Values

Raise a kid who goes for it.

Most of us default to too much pressure or too much protection. You’ll learn what high standards plus high support actually sounds like, and how to say it in the moment.

Mentor Mode

Let’s level set

Give the thing a chance.

You can’t create confidence in your kid. Neither can I. What you can do is create an environment where confidence flourishes, and be the parent they watch go after a dream, fall, and get back up. That’s what these 30 days build.

Your kid might roll their eyes on day one. You might feel silly doing the exercises yourself. Good. That’s the part that works.

I can’t hand you a copy-and-paste template, because confidence doesn’t work that way. Some exercises will land for your family and some won’t. That trial and error is how you build your Konfidence Kode.

Thirty days won’t make anyone fearless. It will give you both proof you can do hard things, and a way to keep collecting it after we’re done.

Raleigh doing confidence activities with his kids

The guy teaching you this

I’m Raleigh. I spent two years answering the wrong question first.

I wrote a book, The Creator’s Call, about what I thought was the most important thing to figure out in life: your purpose. Then I watched people read it, know exactly what they were meant to do, and not change a thing.

Knowing what you’re meant to do doesn’t matter if you don’t trust yourself to go after it. Every time I’ve been stuck in my own life, it was the same thing. I was scared to fail, and I didn’t trust myself enough.

So I went deep on what self-trust actually is. I used to think confidence was liking what I saw in the mirror that morning. It isn’t, and it isn’t being certain things will work out either. It’s trusting yourself, and you can’t trust someone you don’t know. That’s Konfidence with a K.

Today I’m a single dad of three, one reel with my son hit about 3 million views, and more than 300,000 parents follow along.

Confidence isn’t a mindset. It’s what happens after you do something real and watch it actually work.

Read this before you join.

This is for you if

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You hear your kid talk down to themselves and don’t know what to say back

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You know you play smaller than you should, and you don’t want to hand that to them

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You’d rather build proof than give pep talks

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Your kids are 7 or older, or you want to do it just for yourself

This is not for you if

You want a script that makes your kid confident by Friday

You want to assign it to your kid and stay out of it. You go first, every time.

You’re looking for therapy. This is skill-building, not treatment.

Questions

Before you join.

Is this only for parents with kids?

No. Every daily exercise is built for you. Each one comes with a kid-friendly way to talk about it at home, and you can use it or skip it. Plenty of people take the challenge just for themselves.

How young is too young to do it with my kids?

The exercises are for you, so your kids’ ages don’t limit what you get out of it. For the kid conversations, 7 and up works best. My twins are 8, and they understand most of it and enjoy it. Younger kids still get the most important part: watching you do it.

How much time does it take?

Five to ten minutes a day for your exercise. The conversation with your kid is extra, whenever it fits.

Where does it happen?

Everything lives in Circle. You’ll get access when doors open.

Is this therapy?

No. It’s skill-building, not treatment. If you or your kid are dealing with anxiety or depression that’s getting in the way of daily life, please talk to a professional. This can sit alongside that, not replace it.